Independence: Think For Yourself

Question Everything? Why?

I love this piece. Although it is directly addressing the topic of education it has an undeniable universal logic and philosophy. What happens when we replace the topic of “education” with “life”? Or is that the same thing?

I find it ironic that growing up I often heard the words “think for yourself” yet, I was taught to “do what I was told”. I was taught that if I did what I was told and followed the rules life would be rewarding. Life would be smooth and I would wind up with the things that make life fulfilling like; a car at 16, college, get married, buy a house, raise a family, etc. That was the order of things. Only it didn’t quite work out that way. It left me very confused.

Not only was I confused by the contradiction, in order to “follow the rules”, in order to follow the established social design, I would often make choices that were in direct conflict to what I felt I wanted. I essentially let society dictate my path in life instead of exploring the one that was right for me. This way of thinking became a liability in relationships. I have discovered that it is far more important to know myself and make the best choices based on that knowledge.girl-mechanics-500-tumblr_lg947w74pu1qdp9u9o1_500wtmk

I was impressed with the opening few minutes of this video where the mother is scolding her son and admonishing him to conform only for him to question the motivation. How often do we regurgitate directives without truly understanding if they are necessary to our personal evolution? Is there an alternative that will work better? Are we telling our children, friends, and significant others to do things just because it is the way it has always been done?

One of the most noticeable examples of this creative evolution is in the break down of gender specific roles in a relationship. Traditionally women cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, tend to, and went shopping. Men, on the other hand were gringoVacuumexpected to take out the trash, mow the lawn, watch football, and work on the car. As society evolves the “correct” gender isn’t always available, or even desires, to do the task assigned to them by tradition. Out of necessity or sheer autonomy, it’s anyone’s guess who is going to be doing what chore or activity.

How awesome is that? As individuals with our own unique stories, how much freedom can we find in that? We have the ability now, more than ever, to wipe the slate clean and not only write our life story the way we perceive it should be, but tailor it to our personal beliefs and values.


With that thought, go out and have a great weekend everyone! Don’t do something just because it “has always been that way” or because someone you have given authority to “says so”. Explore. Question. Discover. Make sure you are taking on beliefs and values because they are your own…not an outdated version of someone else’s. Have fun with your life…

It’s the only one you’ve got!


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